A few years ago I wrote this blog post, but then I fell back into the relationship. I hit the bottle – I colored my hair!!!!
A few years ago…
But you’ll look Old!!! If you look old I’ll look old – said my friends who for my 40th birthday took me to have my hair colored, and I liked it. I tossed my hair back and forth and thought Yes, I look good! buuuttt. I knew! I kneeeww, I knew at the time that I was not the kind of girl who could have a long term relationship with hair color.
It just wasn’t going to work. I knew ours was not a true, lasting love, but merely a vain fling. Oh, don’t get me wrong, I loved it at first; the delusion of youth, the excitement of a monthly adventure. But it didn’t take long; soon the dread slipped in. My color and I grew farther and farther apart. I no longer longed for the adventure but dreaded it.
Sometimes I put it off 6 weeks or more, but then the tell-tale sign was there; the streak of shame, that silver line that showed like a hickey in our relationship. It showed like a reverse hickey, not a sign of togetherness, but separateness. And I had to color.
I drug myself embarrassed, vanity struck, and unhappily back to the bottle of color for another fling. The results no longer excited me. They were flat, dull, and foreign like I had dressed in another woman’s clothes. Sigh, it wasn’t pretty. I wasn’t true to myself and I knew it.
Then I decided to do it! Make the break. I was, after all, changing my lifestyle so that I would be healthier. Going natural and organic and making my home and house healthier. How could I continue in this relationship? I was becoming crunchy; a granola girl, it didn’t’ fit! I could make this change too, I decided! Well…there is always “organic hair color”, But NO! It had to go! We had to part ways. I couldn’t stand the suspense each month; the not knowing how it would turn out, the damage to my fine soft hair. It was an unhealthy relationship. We had to break up. IT MUST BE DONE!
So, I did it — cold turkey. We broke up. I didn’t even tell it, it had been nice. I just walked away.
It took so long to get over the relationship; more than a year. As my hair grew out, it changed weird colors, fading into a gross kind of green color at the ends; a constant reminder of our relationship. The ends were fried and gross, but I stood firm. I was not going to be bullied into coming back! We were over.
One day I noticed how soft my hair was becoming, how healthy and yes! How it sparkled in the sun with streaks of silver. Shwiinggg! Young 20 something guys started saying things like “hey, your hair is cool….duuude(imagine Keanu Reeves voice here)” Then one day one of them proclaimed! “It’s like superheroes are real!-dduuuuude” Ah, I got it. The silver streaks were like those of the women in comic books. I could live with that. I’m a little bit worried about our 20 something’s, but I digress.
The day came when it was time to tackle those ends. I chopped it all off in what I hoped would be a sassy pixie cut. Finally! It was gone! Nothing but pure virgin hair! Sassy, silver hair! How sweet it is! It seems you can go back!
I am now into the second year of liberty from my relationship with hair color. My hair has continued to soften, and I no longer look like Rogue from Marvel comics. I must admit that I do miss the occasional “duuudde”, but I’m happy. I will always remember our relationship, but I cherish the future. One of change and growth as a natural woman, one who will not look “old” because of hair color, but will be young because of who I am! Liberated from my relationship with hair color! Haazzzzuhhh!!!
For those whose path is not the natural hair path, there is no judgment. Color away – You be you!
Several Years Later…
I admit it…I did it.. I went back. This time I didn’t color my own hair but it was done under the care and talent of my divine stylist, John. Every 6 weeks he made me look faaabulous!!! But then I remembered, it’s true…ours is not a lasting love – Hair color and me. So I’ve started the journey again. “How long will it take” I asked my stylist. “9 months he said”. UGGGHHHH will it go green and funky again?? Will I be blue?? Will I look like a mutant??? Sigh. It is not a relationship you just “quit”, it is a slow recovery process.
Now it begins – the Journey. Bits of soft silver are beginning to shine through – I have hope, and I have a stylist. John will keep me in cute sassy haircuts and he will listen to me moan and complain as it grows out as he also makes comments hidden by dry humor. – well, ok, not so hidden, really. But he’ll listen, and we will make it. Eye rolls included.
Check back this winter for the reveal!
On a serious note, one of the reasons we color our hair is because out culture makes it so hard just to be you…the way you were born-your hair color, your eye color, your skin color, your body shape your __________…. We color, tan, or not tan, lose weight, gain weight, dress to please. STOP THE MADNESS. The key here is to love yourself as you are! I used to love the show “What Not to Wear” and one thing Clinton Kelly would often say is to dress the body you have not the body you wish you had- love the body you have, not the body you wish you had. That’s it, right there. If we love ourselves, we are loving to ourselves and thus more likely to be the person we want to be. If coloring makes you happy, then color away. If you want to go grey, then go grey. You do you and love it!!!
Lisa is an Independent Shaklee Distributor and received her Health Coach Certification from the Dr. Sears Wellness Institute, founded by world-renowned physician and author, Dr. William Sears. The Institute is a leader in science-based health and wellness education that focuses on the four pillars of health; Lifestyle, Exercise, Attitude and Nutrition (L.E.A.N.). A certification by the Dr. Sears Wellness Institute is obtained only after completing the extensive course work and meeting all requirements. Once certified, a Health Coach possesses the knowledge, tools and resources to make a positive difference in the health of others.
The information in this blog is educational and not meant to diagnose, treat, or mitigate symptoms.
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